[H] FIND THE REMEDY'S NAME (103)

[Wendy Howard]

From Sankaran:

The main feeling of [remedy] is "the person I love is indifferent to me".
They are self-possessed, self-dependent and very helpful people. Very
friendly. Sensitive and sympathetic.
Indifference to loved ones. Many fears: Delusion images frightful;
anxious about the future; starting from noise; starting easily, irritability
from trifles.
Discouraged. Imbecility.
Physicial Symptoms
- Sourness, acidity but with desire for highly pungent, strong tasting
things.
- Crave fried fish and eggs.

From Scholten:

{Remedy] is not a very well known remedy. There are not many really clear
cases to be found in the literature. [...]

The theme according to the group analysis is that communication is
forbidden. Vithoulkas said at one of his seminars that a typical trait of
[remedy] is that they walk around with a secret. They have the feeling that
there is something that they are not allowed to share with others. Their
conscience forbids them to talk about their ideas or their problems. They
carry the heavy burden of their secret around with them. Their fear of the
telephone is a typical expression of this. When the telephone rings they
suddenly have to talk to someone. They are afraid that they will say
something wrong or that they will say too much.
A variation on this theme is that the communication is very sensitive
and refined. They like to communicate, but only if it is very at a high
level. That could mean culturally refined, but also delicate with respect to
other peoples feelings. They are very subtle and sensitive in the way they
treat others. They expect others to treat them in the same way, because they
feel very vulnerable.
Another variation could be that they feel to be alone with their
learning problems. They think that they have to sort out every problem on
their own. Later in life they feel that they have to cope with their work by
themselves, find solutions to problems on their own. They feel that their
thinking process is slow, that something is holding them back. This can also
be expressed in the feeling that they are forbidden to be too curious. They
are not allowed to just ask anything. All these restrictions they put upon
themselves do not make it easy for them to make good progress in their
studies, hence they become slow learners.
A final variation on the theme might be that they don't have any
brothers or friends. This could be the situation of an only child, or a
child whose brother has died. Not having any friends is also similar to this
situation. They feel lonely and depressed, they go their own way. This
situation might come about through the loss of friends after moving house,
or after the death of a friend.

Regards
Wendy Howard