17 year old son

[ForumGal]

Friends,

Thanks very much for recent info on making smaller potencies from greater
ones (impossible).

Now I wonder if you can help me with my 17 year old son (who has been
prescribed hyos in the past, which was great for his wild-to-quiet behavior,
and med, which didn't seem to do much).

He's so sad (though he'd never say so to me) and self-defeating, keeps
screwing up: cutting classes, not doing homework, getting speeding tickets,
having minor car accidents, etc. Has two good friends of long standing
(seemingly good relationships), no casual friends or gang, lives with his dad
who criticizes him (though they also play together and periodically enjoy
each other) and stepmom, is still extremely angry at/rude to his 3 parents
(does NOT hate his stepmom, though), is good to his younger brother (who
lives with me, about 10 minutes from dad's). Used to live with mom one week,
dad the next, chose about 3 years ago to stop that and live with dad. His
own idea.

Is a star at his assistant teaching job at Sunday school (he helps, picks
up slack, is selfless, doesn't covet authority), is captain of the track and
soccer teams, minor sports at his school (likes to be helpful, guide
people), just got rejected for admission to his parents' alma mater, which
was a major defeat for him (or maybe a major relief?? partly because he'd be
following in resented parents' footsteps, also would be far from home?? -- he
has no desire to travel tho isn't averse when family events come up). He
kind of expected the rejection because of his grades. He's so smart but
isn't brave enough to be a big success, had a horrible time as a kid
(emotional abuse in family, parents divorced).

I keep thinking (I know enough to be dangerous) lachesis or lycopodium or
nat mur. I gave him nat mur 10M once about 4 years ago, seemed to make no
dif. He's not a suck-up type, or at least I don't see it that way. But he
does want to be liked, and every adult who knows him likes him. He used to
have a girlfriend who was a total wild woman. emotionally manipulative tho
she cared for him and he for her, and now has a crush on a woman 6 years
older than he is, that he works with at Sunday school who is nice to him and
will go out with him but has made it clear that they're not a couple. Does
NOT force himself on her. Both inappropriate women in some sense.

Bad acne. Constant stuffed nose, allergic sneezing. Eats slowly. Eats
small meals (in my opinion). VERY messy room. Warm. Reads a lot for
pleasure. Recently enjoyed a classical concert (with his 23-year-old crush).
Not into popular music muc -- like oldies. Stays up very late. Sleeps
soundly I think. Embarassed to be a star, the focus of attention, has
trouble accepting allocades.

Self-defeating. Can be domineering but isn't brave in a way (lyc).
Confesses stuff (cutting classes, etc.) to adults he trusts, makes it
possible for parents to find out. Hasn't isolated himself, but isn't big on
peer social activities.

I'll appreciate any advice or questions you have. Many thanks. Margaret

[medorrus]

Margaret
Sounds like a fairly successful teenager. Why and what is it that
would stop you from communicating your feelings to this young Adult
and developing a solid avenue of trust rather than medicating, as
such, to change YOUR perceptions to HIS (almost legal) life. Maybe
your own issues need to be addressed and treated as giving this teen
a 'remedy' would most likely empower his/your feelings of his real or
imagined inadequacy. Not every problem to a young person is
changeable with a homeopathic rx as love, understanding and respect
are much higher on the remedy list.
Medo Ross Draven
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thanks. Margaret