Stuck cases

[Charlotte Gilruth]

Tanya wrote:
Dear Charlotte,

My question is this: How do we separate our personal choice to limit our
involvement in a case from what homeopathy can do?

Their are several impressions I am receiving from this thread in the posts.
On one hand there is the issue of people who manufacture fake diseases, for
whatever their reason. I think it was Joy that described patients who
invent diseases like cancer and play out the course of treatment with
demands on friends and family for caretaking. Then, there are the people
who manifest their pathology with a vise-like grip and cant seem to let go.
They seem more committed to being sick than to healing. This from Charlotte.

I think cases like these are very difficult. They speak to deep pathology
whether it comes from terror, guilt, cosmic isolation, etc. I keep coming
back to the question as to whether homeopathy is able to penetrate the
defenses. Vithoulkas had at one time spoken of incurable cases (I dont know
if he still does). Homeopathy cannot restore a limb that has been severed,
but it can help a person accept their limitations and loss. And,
homeopathy should be able to help people accept the vacancy from losses on
an emotional level, hard as it may be. Such cases are more than simply a
challenge to our practice. I kow of one practitioner who says she will try
3 remedies and if their is no success, she referrs the patient on. This
speaks to an attitude that defines personal limitation or boundaries,
without denying the possibility of a positive prognosis for the patient.

The discussion on minutus seems to be reflecting the level of frustration
that arises in practice. But it sticks in my craw to translate this
frustration into a negative prognosis. Perhaps these notes are more a
reflection of my 'never-say-die" attitude in life.

tanya

Hi Tanya,

I guess as with everything in homeopathy, the asnwer depends on the
individual.

I don't assume someone is incurable if they are blocked, but I do assume
they are incurable by ME if they don't come back! I am unwilling to expend
energy trying to convince people to stay in the process if they are
resistant. Most of the time it doesn't work anyway, and even if they do
stay with persuasion, it is only for a short time longer. I am finding it
less of a strain to just let them go if they want to. (I had a call today,
though, from one woman who dropped out a couple of months ago. She realized
her remedy had helped when some of the symptoms that had disappeared came
back.)

On the other hand, I will just keep trying if I haven't got the right
remedy-- for clients who keep coming. I found one woman's simillimum after
four years. There was no way I could have found it earlier, until I studied
with Divya Chhabra and learned her in-depth methods of case receiving and
analysis, including the use of free association to access deeper levels.
(Has anyone on the list studied with her? I'd like to correspond over
cases.)

Still, I confront people who I feel are leaving all the work to me, as if it
is just a passive mechanical process they are in. The woman who kept coming
back for four years really wanted to change and heal.

As I touched on earlier, saying some NEED their illness and won't let go,
there have been a number of people who stayed in treatment for a long
time--UNTIL I found the simillimum! This is paradoxical but true. It's
happened many times. They stay involved in the struggle, but as soon as the
remedy is found that resonates at a core level--they have disappeared! It
is just like the second woman I mentioned, who said she felt scared when she
felt just like her old self for a day: What was the point of getting well,
if she didn't have a job or relationship? I can continue working with her
because she is willing to examine this feeling and keep going with
homoeopathy. What can I do about the people who leave, besides accept their
choice, pray for them, and wish them well?

Blessings,
Charlotte
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[Tanya Marquette]

Dear Charlotte,

I think this last response resonnates more closely with my perception. I think I am a pretty open and direct type of person with everything I do. In working with people I strive to open up the consciousness with people. However, in each individual case as it is said. We always have to gauge what someone might be ready to hear and monitor how we say it to some degree. The effort is always to bring others into their own consciousness and healing powers. I always tell people that knowledge is empowerment and the healing process has to embrace this.

And then there is issue of 'matching.' A number of years ago I had a discussion with a therapist friend of mine about patient-practitioner relationships. Her statement that we cant resonnate with all people has always stayed with me. It's very empowering to us to realize when this is happening and refer a patient on to another who might be able to relate better.than ourselves.

Thank you for your good thoughts.
tanya