thuja - child

[doctorleelah2h]

HEre is some more interesting input on THuja:
http://www.hpathy.com/materiamedica/Jor ... _thuja.asp
Liz, ABout what you said below - how often does this take place do
you think, counselling through the homeoapth? (in India it may be a
common occurance in less simple circumstances)
Is it something accepted?
Is it becasue you have a counsellilng background?
thanks,
D.r leela

another appointment for him but asked him to think about whether he
would like
to come back and see me. I also asked him to think about whether he
could sit
down with his partner and tell her about his childhood. I also
offered the
opportunity of a counseling session with his partner. He felt very
relieved at
the idea of joint counseling as he felt that he would have someone to
protect
him from her.<<<<
--- In minutus@yahoogroups.com, "liz lalor" wrote:
session for his inability to 'be able to provide love to his
partner'. No remedy was given first session. The physical symptoms
listed were erectile problems. He is unable to become firm enough to
find it easy to enter her vagina. He quite often also experiences
immediate ejaculation without achieving orgasm; often directly upon
being touched. The fact that he ejaculates without achieving orgasm
is an interesting characteristic. I ask him about this. He says he is
split and separated from himself and swears he has no sensation of an
orgasm. He describes that he feels completely unable to be connected
to himself at this time. He expressed that after he immediately
ejaculates it is an enormous relief as he is then 'let off having to
have sex.' He also suffers from a sore swollen penis after sex. He
has no sexual desire and has no problem with satisfying his partner
with no need to have sex himself. He has also told his partner he
would have no problems with her taking a lover; as long as it was
purely for sexual satisfaction on her part. He expressed his needs in
a relationship as his need to support and love his partner; to
provide cuddles and closeness and spiritual love. He also expressed
that his partner has frequently complained about 'the mess' he has
made if he ejaculates. His partner is extremely anxious about
becoming pregnant, and has insists he control himself and not
ejaculate inside of her. This has resulted in an increased level of
pressure which has exasperated his erectile problems. He believes
that the fact that his partner does not want any part of himself
inside of her is a spiritual rejection of him. Her disgust with his
sperm makes him feel unwanted. He is unable to use condoms and looses
his erection immediately. I asked him to relay all of his sexual
experiences.
as was the woman. The woman was 31 yrs old and upon hearing he was a
virgin, took extreme umbrage and attacked him with a knife. He fled
back to his ship; he was a sailor. He stayed on the ship for weeks
terrified as it was reported to him by his fellow sailors that the
woman was out to knife him. His next experience at age 18 years of
age also ended in physical abuse. This woman was also sexually
excited by being physically abused, and the idea of accommodating her
made him physically and emotionally disgusted. He ended up physically
vomiting allover her.
relationship with his mother and father. His father was physically
abusive. He was beaten extensively by his father. His father was
unpredictable and reactive. He related a painful experience of his
train set being smashed by his father. His mother was also physically
abusive. Although his father used to beat him up he was able to stop;
his mother was unable to stop the beating and his father had to
literally pull her off him. He has one sister who was also physically
abused. His sister is 'simple.' There is a question in my mind as to
whether she was mentally damaged as a result of being beaten at an
early age. At the age of 16 he was told he could not come home by his
mother. He was on leave from his ship and was told he was not welcome
because he had previously made his sister's boyfriend unwelcome at
the house because he did not approve of him. His sister married this
particular fellow who has since turned out to be an abuser who beats
her up.
in is also abusive. He comments on the similarity between her not
wanting his sperm inside of her to her also not wanting his furniture
or belongings in her house. He has moved from 'the country he loves,'
England to Australia. She has expressed that she does not want his
furniture or books that he has shipped. She is a writer and has a
room in the house as hers in which he is not allowed to enter. He is
dismayed that he is not given the same courtesy of being given his
own space. He feels overwhelmed by her reactions to him expressing
any of his desires. My impression based on his expression is that she
is attacking and extremely hyper-vigilant to perceived criticism. He
felt powerless to express his likes or dislikes when they were
finding a house to live. He also struggles physically with being able
to physically enter her vagina. He feels his penis is too weak.
woman who was 11 years older than him when he was 39 years. He found
that because her vagina had given birth to two children it was easier
for him to enter. He also experienced that semi erect he able to
satisfy her for longer and her vagina was more open. It was evident
that the woman herself was also open and non-judgmental and accepting
of him. The strongest aspect about this relationship that I noted was
that she was not critical or abusive. He feels that he made the
biggest mistake of his life when he stopped having a relationship
with her. She ended the relationship as she felt he needed to go off
and have his life and children with someone. She expressed that she
had, had her life, and that she felt she was holding him back from
having the chance to have a life. He also relayed that he was not
sexually anxious with her as he was not attracted to her. He is still
in contact with her and they have a very tender friendship. His
present partner is extremely jealous if he ever talks about this
relationship. I noted that it was interesting that he had no sexual
attraction to her.
woman he married. He was able to have a successful sexual
relationship with his wife for 9 years from the point of view of an
erect penis. Although he ejaculated with her he did not have an
orgasm with that ejaculation. After 9 years of marriage his wife left
with no warning. He described himself from the age of 16years as
being completely detached from his feelings. He felt this was from
the time his mother told him never to come home again. Because of his
violent childhood he has always been terrified of the thought of
having children in case he himself turned out to be violent towards
his children. He never told his wife the reasons behind never wanting
to have children. His wife hates him and is extremely embittered as
she felt that she had missed out on the opportunity to have children
because of his desire not to have children. After 9 years of marriage
his wife asked him to give up sailing. He refused and she left the
marriage. She had apparently equated him giving up sailing with her
having to give up children and his desire to not do that she
interpreted as extremely painful. She has since married his best
friend; which he finds extremely painful. After his marriage broke up
he had his first experience of counseling. The counselor at the time
made him aware of his violent childhood. From that moment he felt
that the wall and block he had around himself was broken down. He
also felt that it was after counseling that he had his only non
abusive relationship with the 50 year old woman, when he was 39years
old. After counseling he has also been able to have an orgasm. He
however still experiences the inability to achieve a hard enough
erection to be able to comfortably enter his partner without
experiencing extreme pain in his penis. He also expressed that he
felt that his penis was too weak to be able to penetrate his
partner's vagina. He feels that sex is painful. He says he still
feels separated or split from himself. He also feels that he has
never felt spiritually connected while having sex; he only feels
connected when he is cuddling his partner.
to have sex in the open; in particular in the forest. He met her
through a walking group and as they were walking in the forest she
would take off her clothes and insist that he have sex with her. He
was not able to be able to perform in these circumstances and she
became physically violent towards him.
wanted him to be sexually violent. Not only did this terrify him
because he is scared he could be like his mother unable to stop once
he started to be physically violent; but her husband also was violent
and they lived in the same district and he was terrified of the
husband finding out about the relationship. He also suffered erectile
problems in this affair.
present partner because of his inability to perform sexually. He was
forced by her to come and see me. He is scared about being alone in a
new country without any friends and no partner. He also related that
in England he had had long periods of time in his life in no
relationship and that he was more content being alone without being
in a relationship in which he is under pressure to have sex.
decide if he wanted to come back to me; and secondly I refused to
give him any homoeopathics or herbal supplements for sexual
performance until we talked more about this history. I felt to give
him a product for erectile problems negated his feelings and could
also be abusive. He expressed a strong disgust at being sent off to
someone to get these products and that he felt that he would only be
wanted for being a sex machine. He is totally disgusted at the idea
of taking Viagra. The fact that he felt totally unable to say that he
actually did not want to come and see me in the first place was
extremely important to note. I did not make another appointment for
him but asked him to think about whether he would like to come back
and see me. I also asked him to think about whether he could sit down
with his partner and tell her about his childhood. I also offered the
opportunity of a counseling session with his partner. He felt very
relieved at the idea of joint counseling as he felt that he would
have someone to protect him from her. He also relayed that he had
been previously unsuccessful in talking with her as she takes it as a
criticism and attacks him. He would be very happy if he never had sex
again. He has no sexual desire. He once again thinks the best
solution is for his partner to take a lover to satisfy her sexually;
although he reiterated that he is happy to satisfy her sexually as
long as it does not involve penetration on his part. He agreed very
strongly with me that he would feel that if I gave him a remedy to
take it would be negating of his feelings. I felt this was an
important aspect of the case to note. He felt that I if he took
something then he would have to have sex. I noted that he did not
want to have sex and that he did not want to find a solution to his
erectile problem. The fact that he did not want to have sex ever
again I felt was very important.
large corporation. In his job people ring up to complain about the
problems they are having with their commuter program. Frequently the
clients are abusive. His partner introduces him at parties as working
for an exploitive multi national. He feels that she is disrespectable
of his job, and he feels belittled after she has introduced him.
was such a disturbing case history that to use the physicals missed
the trauma of his childhood, and his sexual history. I decided to use
Mirilli's repertory and analyze the case on the basis of themes.
c.ARN.ars. bar-c. bell. Cadm-s. cann-i. caust. cham. con. cupr. cupr-
acet. graph. ign. iod. lyc. nux-v. op. petr. phos. plb. rhod. sep.
stram. stry. tarent. thuj. valer.
thuj.
her body(split), and in such a condition hears and feels everything
as from distance. Themes: divided, double, separated.
Themes: indifference, sexual.
touch, approached.
fragile, frail) and could not resist least attack (illness); as if
continuity of body would be dissolved. Themes: fragile, disease,
disintegration, ruined.
mind symptoms. The Netherlands, IRHIS, 2000.