Digest Number 1873

[Theresa Partington]

Shannon wrote:
You must not have "shame" or "guilt" or "delusion, he has done wrong" etc.
in your own inner landscape! Any patient who *feels bad* about things they
have done/not done/thought/forgotten, or with doubt about their own
self-worth or etc., will hugely appreciate a "warm and forgiving" attitude.
And yes, sometimes a good therapeutic relationship *will* keep a patient
coming back even if results aren't quick--generally a *good* thing, in my
book!
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Firstly, hands up anyone who *doesn't* think a good therapeutic relationship
is a *good* thing!!

Secondly, I have at least average amounts of guilt, delusions etc.. I see
them as located in the child ego state that I carry with me. A practitioner
who re-inforces them by judging or *forgiving* would be acting in a
non-therapeutic,i.e non remedial, role. IMO.

BW

Theresa

[J Lucas]

Isn¹t this really all about finding a balance between having an open mind
and also putting forward enough interest in a client so that they know and
feel you are going to put the time and interest in to help cure their case.

Being the unprejudiced observer is paramount to creating a good therapeutic
relationship. Forgiving suggests something more judgemental imho.

Best wishes, Joy

http://www.homeopathicmateriamedica.com
on 11/1/05 12:43 pm, Theresa Partington at
theresa@frogsisland.freeserve.co.uk wrote:
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]

[Shannon Nelson]

Well, I guess it's a matter of personal preference and interpersonal
dynamics, which makes sense. My reply was based on the facts that I,
personally, have had occasion to celebrate a "forgiving" attitude from my
prescriber(s), and have tended to relate similarly to others I am working
with, which has not seemed detrimental thus far! But there are many ways to
accomplish a goal, and different folks prefer different approaches.

And come to think, I do have one pt with whom I've had to learn to say
something like "Mm." instead of something more natural to me, such as "I
know you were doing your best!" She turns out to be nat-m, with a good case
of "consolation aggravates"! Anyway, I do not share your view that a
"forgiving" attitude is in itself suspect; I guess that was really my only
point.

Cheers,
Shannon
on 1/11/05 6:43 AM, Theresa Partington at
theresa@frogsisland.freeserve.co.uk wrote:

[Rosemary C Hyde PhD]

Are we perhaps arguing simply about a word that was chosen, i.e. "forgiveness." It strikes me that we probably are in agreement about the need for getting our own egos out of the way in our role as homeopaths, and that "forgiveness" could be one way of saying that (or not, depending on the subtext we each give to that word.).

Rosemary