Children who aren't adopted
Posted: Wed Feb 13, 2002 11:40 pm
Most people do want babies and they will go through the expense and jump
through hoops to get a baby from Asia or Mexico rather than adopt an
older child.
Most of the boys & girls (if they survive to adulthood - men & women) on
the street selling their body
are victims of incest or the foster/child care system.
Add to this the fact that many children given up are sick (HIV, TB or
w/an illness that the parent/s could not cope with) or they were born
with brain damage due to alcoholic or drug addicted parents.
Most country's foster care & orphan institutions are a scandal - in NYC
for instance, children are often housed in offices till they find a
foster family as there are so many children who need care.
In the US once an orphan becomes 18 yrs old they no longer qualify for
assistance. Imagine what it would be like to have NO FAMILY, nothing to
model as far as life choices, no profession and being on your own.
These poor children are easy marks for pimps, who know how to use the
child's vulnerability and need for approval/family, to take advantage of
them.
You wrote:
.....most women? How do you 'KNOW' this? Then why do they put up their
children for adoption? There are many contradictions here. I live in
England
and yes there are thousands of children 'available' for fostering and/or
adoption but, according to agencies I speak to things are not so bad. So
so
many find loving homes and new families. I think it is best not to make
gross over or under statements about this.
..... not true here, many older children in fact form the majority of
children available.
--and that leaves a lot of children left in the "care" of woefully
inadequate state facilities--and foster homes. It is not, by any stretch
of
the imagination, a good life.
.... again, this might be your opinion only.
There are many children I know of who are glad to be away from their
birth
parents.
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through hoops to get a baby from Asia or Mexico rather than adopt an
older child.
Most of the boys & girls (if they survive to adulthood - men & women) on
the street selling their body
are victims of incest or the foster/child care system.
Add to this the fact that many children given up are sick (HIV, TB or
w/an illness that the parent/s could not cope with) or they were born
with brain damage due to alcoholic or drug addicted parents.
Most country's foster care & orphan institutions are a scandal - in NYC
for instance, children are often housed in offices till they find a
foster family as there are so many children who need care.
In the US once an orphan becomes 18 yrs old they no longer qualify for
assistance. Imagine what it would be like to have NO FAMILY, nothing to
model as far as life choices, no profession and being on your own.
These poor children are easy marks for pimps, who know how to use the
child's vulnerability and need for approval/family, to take advantage of
them.
You wrote:
.....most women? How do you 'KNOW' this? Then why do they put up their
children for adoption? There are many contradictions here. I live in
England
and yes there are thousands of children 'available' for fostering and/or
adoption but, according to agencies I speak to things are not so bad. So
so
many find loving homes and new families. I think it is best not to make
gross over or under statements about this.
..... not true here, many older children in fact form the majority of
children available.
--and that leaves a lot of children left in the "care" of woefully
inadequate state facilities--and foster homes. It is not, by any stretch
of
the imagination, a good life.
.... again, this might be your opinion only.
There are many children I know of who are glad to be away from their
birth
parents.
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