do you tell the patient?( a bit long)
Posted: Fri May 25, 2007 11:26 pm
I have so appreciated all the responses and the
conversation that has evolved around my original “do
you tell the patient?” question. I just thought I’d
add in a little context now to my post. I am a
homeopathy student and a patient. I have been so for
about 15 months, during which time the h’path was also
treating my one son as well as myself. This issue of
not telling me the remedy has been a sticking point
almost since the beginning, but I honestly felt I had
no other options (no other homeopaths that seemed as
qualified as this one) and no other medical options to
explore. So I took it without knowing and without
knowing my son’s remedies either. This h’path also
uses biochemics concurrently, so I have seen him every
two weeks or every month for the past year and a half.
At one point I was fed up with his refusal to tell me
and almost stopped going, but that was after a year
and I was loathe to “give up” on this huge investment
of time, money (almost $3000 at this point!) and
effort (record keeping, etc) that I have made---I
thought perhaps this was just MY ego in the way, etc.
(Funny how some of us blame ourselves so easily and
let others off the hook.) Well, recently I went in
prepared for THIS to be the day that I got the
information. (The h’path had told me that he would
eventually tell me and when I asked when, he said
“when you insist”). Well, this day I insisted. And
guess what? He still won’t tell me. I had made in my
notebook a list of the dates that my son and I
received the homeopathic remedies (as opposed to the
biochemics) and even I was SHOCKED to realize that I
had not had a remedy for over ONE YEAR! Perhaps it’s
a sign of my healing that I am no longer willing to
tolerate this situation. I will not see this homeopath
again---but that doesn’t alter the fact that I still
don’t know. I am not really free to seek treatment
with someone else when I don’t even know what’s been
going on with our cases for the past 15 months. (and
my son and I are not what I would called cured yet)
Angry? You betcha! Did I tell the h’path off? No, I
didn’t…..and Irene, I have to tell you that your post
ran as close to mine as any…..I didn’t really voice my
objection right then and there for fear of “the
mushroom cloud”---I was so angry I could’ve grabbed
him by the neck.
And for some of those who are assuming that someone
like me (who took it without knowing what it was) have
some sort of yielding, pulsatilla-esque
personality….that’s not at all true. It’s so
uncharacteristic of me to agree to this situation.
I’m the one who reads about the Rx on line and the
whole pamphlet, etc. But, again, it speaks to the
amount of trust that patients put in their h’paths.
Your posts on my question have been a great source of
reflection and I have come to some great
realizations---one is that being in this situation has
really dampened my feelings about my studies and
caused a lot of inner turmoil. I only tell you this
now to add to everyone’s collective experience and
perhaps give some of you who don’t tell a little more
insight about how it feels to be a patient who really
wants/needs (for whatever reason!) to know and is not
told. I just wanted to know for my own homeopathic
learning, and because I take responsibility for my own
well-being. The irony is that I would NEVER in a
million years allow an MD doctor to pull the same
routine on me.
Once again, I just wanted to thank you all for the
great conversation and exchange. It’s such a great
opportunity to be able to “eavesdrop” on conversations
about homeopathy and hear about the joys,
difficulties, and challenges of practice. Thank again!
Gretta
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conversation that has evolved around my original “do
you tell the patient?” question. I just thought I’d
add in a little context now to my post. I am a
homeopathy student and a patient. I have been so for
about 15 months, during which time the h’path was also
treating my one son as well as myself. This issue of
not telling me the remedy has been a sticking point
almost since the beginning, but I honestly felt I had
no other options (no other homeopaths that seemed as
qualified as this one) and no other medical options to
explore. So I took it without knowing and without
knowing my son’s remedies either. This h’path also
uses biochemics concurrently, so I have seen him every
two weeks or every month for the past year and a half.
At one point I was fed up with his refusal to tell me
and almost stopped going, but that was after a year
and I was loathe to “give up” on this huge investment
of time, money (almost $3000 at this point!) and
effort (record keeping, etc) that I have made---I
thought perhaps this was just MY ego in the way, etc.
(Funny how some of us blame ourselves so easily and
let others off the hook.) Well, recently I went in
prepared for THIS to be the day that I got the
information. (The h’path had told me that he would
eventually tell me and when I asked when, he said
“when you insist”). Well, this day I insisted. And
guess what? He still won’t tell me. I had made in my
notebook a list of the dates that my son and I
received the homeopathic remedies (as opposed to the
biochemics) and even I was SHOCKED to realize that I
had not had a remedy for over ONE YEAR! Perhaps it’s
a sign of my healing that I am no longer willing to
tolerate this situation. I will not see this homeopath
again---but that doesn’t alter the fact that I still
don’t know. I am not really free to seek treatment
with someone else when I don’t even know what’s been
going on with our cases for the past 15 months. (and
my son and I are not what I would called cured yet)
Angry? You betcha! Did I tell the h’path off? No, I
didn’t…..and Irene, I have to tell you that your post
ran as close to mine as any…..I didn’t really voice my
objection right then and there for fear of “the
mushroom cloud”---I was so angry I could’ve grabbed
him by the neck.
And for some of those who are assuming that someone
like me (who took it without knowing what it was) have
some sort of yielding, pulsatilla-esque
personality….that’s not at all true. It’s so
uncharacteristic of me to agree to this situation.
I’m the one who reads about the Rx on line and the
whole pamphlet, etc. But, again, it speaks to the
amount of trust that patients put in their h’paths.
Your posts on my question have been a great source of
reflection and I have come to some great
realizations---one is that being in this situation has
really dampened my feelings about my studies and
caused a lot of inner turmoil. I only tell you this
now to add to everyone’s collective experience and
perhaps give some of you who don’t tell a little more
insight about how it feels to be a patient who really
wants/needs (for whatever reason!) to know and is not
told. I just wanted to know for my own homeopathic
learning, and because I take responsibility for my own
well-being. The irony is that I would NEVER in a
million years allow an MD doctor to pull the same
routine on me.
Once again, I just wanted to thank you all for the
great conversation and exchange. It’s such a great
opportunity to be able to “eavesdrop” on conversations
about homeopathy and hear about the joys,
difficulties, and challenges of practice. Thank again!
Gretta
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