Sorry but I am appalled at all of this interpersonal banter. A) It does not fit into the parameters set up by our moderator. B) I find it actually quite offensive. These sarcastic surmisings are quite frankly the most diabolical things I have ever encountered on this list. You all are hurting my feelings and I am afraid that should these lighthearted musings continue I will have to find another list. Oh wait I forgot to include the words vitriolic and abomination!
Glad to see that there is still a heartbeat left in everyones sense of humour.
hmmm? i am thinking i should don my sociological
hat --this is quite a study on group dynamics and
communication. what a case study it could make
tanya
Re: John and Irene
Posted: Fri Jul 03, 2009 4:03 pm
by Grace Dasilva-Hill
Why should you be sorry Rik, you are speaking your mind and how you feel.
I disagree however, that other people are hurting your feelings; more to the point you are choosing to feel hurt; other choices at your disposal would be for example ignoring parts of the discussions that you don't connect with, or another choice would be to leave the group.
I have been part of this group for long enough to share the following: 1. I have persoanlly experienced verbal abuse on this group, which I dealt with on a personal off list basis, and 2. it appears to be a characteristic of this group that every now and again we witness this kind of behaviour from certain members. After a while it all seems to settle down, and business resumes as usual. So just be patient, it will pass.
One thing I find sad though, is that there are trolls on this group 'serving' such skeptics as David Colquhoun who must be having a field day at the expense of homeopathy - this is indeed very regrettable. Regards, Grace
Hello Grace,
My post was all tongue in cheek sarcasm, indicating that indeed I "feel" just the opposite! Its the beautiful thick skin of ignorant stoicism....
Sorry to sound so sarcastic. My husband also said when people are
really mad there is no sense of humor left. It is hard for me to
involved in all that anger that takes place on this list. The
"sarcasm" is not impersonal. If it sounds that way to you however, it
is. I actually feel hurt and intimidated by the mean words that are
exchanged here. So I try not to read those interactions. I am
probably missing something important.
Despite my avoidance, my favorite people on this list get all their
precious energy used up in fights that are really far beneath them.
If someone on the list, maybe a new comer, or someone with a chip on
their shoulder, says something offensive or just plain wrong, why does
it blow up into a street fight? On the list everyone is equal on the
surface, but actually if you stick with the list you will realize that
there are people who are major contributors and there are people like
me who are only benefiting from their presence. Then there is a lot
of grey area in between. And there are people who can't see the
difference between contributors.
When someone who doesn't know or care who they are talking to but
starts slinging mud, I wish there were some way to just stop the mud
slinging. I realize you can't do that in a democracy. If it is
between those who really should know of their mutual contribution and
level of respect that they both deserve, that is between two great
contributors. Despite differences of opinion, they can't respect one
another, so I give up. At some point, differences of opinion at the
Continental divide become repetitive and uninformative. The other
case is mud slinging from someone who just doesn't know much about the
list, Repetitive and rude from any party is a sign that the fighting
needs to be done on the street not on the list. Maybe a fact sheet on
the two sides after all the differences are sorted out would be in
order, or define the topic as heated so if people like me who don't
want to get involved in that sort of thing you can opt out. Our
modifier could help us by defining a topic as heated.
Again sorry for sounding sarcastic. I really want to prevent our most
honored contributors from wasting energy that is much better applied
elsewhere.
Another thought is anyone who is not used to this list would be
appalled by the tone. The list is a wonderful resource for people who
know very little about homeopathy. We don't want to imply that rude
interactions are common among homeopaths.
Blessings,
Ellen
Re: John and Irene
Posted: Tue Jul 07, 2009 12:09 pm
by healthinfo6
Does Helios offer a wedding registry? Which remedy gifts does the couple need? Looks like we've got our own Elizabeth Taylor & Richard Burton. A day in the life... Arnica 200C and higher will be needed.