online case SM/Feb.03

[suzannemerritt]

Joy

Again thank you for your suggestions.

Another of my queries was she never once mentioned her mother throughout the
consultation, something that I did not realise until after she left! Is this
unusual?

Do you have any suggestions if her father insists on being at the next
consultation?

Suzanne
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[Soroush Ebrahimi]

Re Mum!! Yes interesting - you will get this when you have a chance to
speak privately.

Re Dad
Just explain that experience has shown that a private consultation is more
beneficial - that usually melts them!!

Good luck and hang in there.

Soroush

[Nancy Siciliana]

I can usually rely on people like this father to see reason...there is an issue of confidentiality which should be respected here, not just by you but also by the father. If you ask him to leave the room so that you may speak to his daughter alone, would he demonstrate resistance? Even if you told him you really needed this in order to be most effective?

Often in treating children I see that it would do the child immense good if treatment could be arranged for the parent--perhaps this could be suggested to the father, tactfully? It might be easier for him to comprehend the need for individual consultation this way.

Yes, I think it a little odd that a young girl doesn't mention her mother...

Nancy

[Joy Lucas]

Dear Suzanne, try to talk to your client first privately, on the phone if
you have to, try to find out the situation of why her father is there, i.e.
is it coming from her or him. Make arrangements as privately as possible
with her (whatever reaction comes from this will indicate whether there is a
problem or not hopefully). Personally, I wouldn't PREVENT him coming as I
would be concerned about losing the case. If he does come you will
inadvertently be interviewing him as well, so be prepared - try and get him
to talk about why she wouldn't eat at 3/4 years old etc. But I guess what
will be will be. There is a limit how you can intervene and this might all
be completely innocent. Tread carefully and professionally and caringly - as
Soroush suggested encourage the father to believe in the benefit of a
private consultation. Go with the flow, if it gets stuck arrange to talk
privately with her over the phone when she is completely alone at home.

You ask about not mentioning her mother - she is very bound up with the pain
and a lot of other issues at the moment and might not have volunteered any
info about her mother. Casetaking should always include aspects of childhood
and attitudes towards parents and siblings. Then there are no question marks
left. But I have a feeling this case might take quite a long time to
unravel. Another thing to remember is that you might be helping to take the
lid off an awful lot of emotions, perhaps have on hand some backup quality
counselling to refer her to if necessary. I am hoping our instincts are
wrong on this.

Best wishes, Joy
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[Rochelle]

The article on Folliculinum by Melissa Assilem can be found on the
www.homeopathyhome.com site somewhere and can be printed off from there.
There is lots of good stuff to be found on that site.

Regards,
Rochelle
www.rochellemarsden.co.uk
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