Minutus

Do you ever try treating the husband through (I'm assuming if the
husband were willing or able to come, he would already be under
treatment) the wife's reporting? Our family h'th did this for us on
numerous occasions. My husband didn't mind taking remedies, but was
(and big-time still is) absolutely lousy at self-reporting ("Fine."
"My wife said I should come." ). And, tho way less than an
ideal situation, it did work out, yielded well-acting remedies (which I
still come back to for him) on several occasions.

I've done this also for a friend whose husband was in a similar
position--needed and wanted help, didn't mind taking remedies, but
would not get himself in for an appointment. In advising the wife re
asking the husband if he wants a remedy, I see no need to go into a big
"I'm going to fix you" trip, just say so-and-so thinks s/he may have
something that would help your (whatever--sleep, toothache, back pain,
headaches--speaking "the truth which is sweet"), would you like to try
it?

What wife in this position wouldn't LOVE the chance to talk about her
husband and their situation anyway? And for that matter, it could help
shed further light on the remedy that *she* needs--that's another
"trick" our homeopath used to use.

Shannon

And for what it's worth, being someone's 24-hour caregiver, as when one spouse is seriously ill and the other has fewer problems, is a major challenge to the caregiver in terms of maintaining some semblance of his/ her personal identity.
If they are financially in the middle -- neither wealthy enough to pay for sufficient outside help nor poor enough to qualify for social services-- the person in the caregiver role frequently ends up exhausted and tormented beyond normal tolerance -- on duty 24/7 helping someone whom they've vowed to stay with no matter what, when neither they nor the partner are any longer capable of being the persons who entered into the relationship.
Both partners need all the help and treatment they can get in such a situation -- which can go on for years. This is an aspect of ill health in the aging to which too little attention has been paid-- the effects on a spouse, in terms of protracted grief, exhaustion and stress. Both parties require compassion and help.
Rosemary
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you could give a remedy to the husband to euthanize him?

i had a few similar thoughts and canned the post!
tanya

Dear Shannon,
I had one only experience of this. The husband in question turned up and to every question I asked said "Write down what you want"!! i.e. he came because his wife insisted but had wish to be there. I can't remember what Rx I gave but he never returned anyway!! I can't remember who it was or the outcome re his wife.
I suppose this has really put me off suggesting that the husbands' see me. However in these latest 2 cases it is doubtful whether the wives would be able to tell their husbands that they have been to a homeopath without some come back
Rochelle
Registered Homeopath
EFT(Advanced) Practitioner
www.southporthomeopathy.co.uk

LOL!!! Arsenicum CM?
Rochelle
Registered Homeopath
EFT(Advanced) Practitioner
www.southporthomeopathy.co.uk

A rather confronting thought from Lynne Mc Taggart's Living The Field is that what one projects is reflected.
If the time to move on is missed it is a situation where codependency, loyalty, duty,children, grandchildren financial aspects play a part. Courage is pursue ones own interests regardless of disapproval. is needed. The person who can live their lives regardless has the most power, Jean

LOL ..... this thought must have crossed quite a few people's minds.
Christine

Lovely Jean. I will pass that on!!!
Rochelle
Registered Homeopath
EFT(Advanced) Practitioner
www.southporthomeopathy.co.uk

You're absolutely right, Jean. Thanks for sharing that thought. I just wanted to point out how difficult this sort of situation can be for both parties -- how life-and-personality- changing a serious long-term illness can be, through nobody's fault. It struck me that some posts didn't acknowledge the compassion that might be called for in thinking about both people in such a situation. Warmly, Rosemary
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