Minutus

"Jim"..
She's going for therapy and counselling, does EFT, speaks to channelers, analyses herself and others - I'm not sure "talk therapy" is helping or just delaying the inevitable - she needs to leave her present situation and start afresh.
I think sometimes we run the risk of starting to believe we can solve our patients problems, and it's really not so.
Vera

hahnemannian2002 wrote:
Vera-
This is certainly an obstacle to cure- sometimes the simillimum helps
a person to face the trials and tribulations of life with better
balance but sometimes counseling and psychotherapy would help. The
counseling / psychotherapy need not be even of the insight variety.
Plain ego-strengthening techniques ( psycho-vitamins) might help while
the remedy works out... Listening to some relaxation tapes etc. would
help too- mainly anything that would help the person to step away from
the mess and look at it with a different perspective....

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Having one or more abusive people close to a person in their life
is definitely an obstacle to cure. This is well known in some
circles.

More info in my Anti-Abuse Education folder in my Links*.

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--- In minutus@yahoogroups.com, VR VR wrote:

I wonder sometimes if her extreme "doing" for family is just an
excuse not to do for herself.
Hello Vera -
you are very right to be "questioning" the reasons for an
extraordinary attachement.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being attached to the family,
of course.

But often the reason for such a strong attachement is fear (of the
individual harming those to whom he/she is so attached) - which stems
from guilt - which is in its turn based on repressed aggressive
feelings (of the patient towards one or more family members).

In short: this person may have experienced a severe trauma of some
kind (related to family members, not necessarily inflicted BY them) -
e.g. a debilitating illness or even death - of a close family member,
probably at an early age (think prepubescence, early adolescence).
She feels guilty for it somehow - or else she feels very annoyed
because the trauma has messed up her life (and *that* is the reason
for guilt). She subsconsciously desires to dispose of those family
members (so that the burden - real or perceived - of her life would be
alleviated). Which is precisely the reason why she is attached to
(overprotective of?) them.
Naturally, this is a HYPOTHETICAL case, a hypothetical "she". I am not
saying that it is necessarily so. Only that it COULD be so.
All the best,

A.