rubrics/rem suggestions for son please

[ForumGal]

Dear all,
You've helped me with my son before but we haven't found the right rem
yet. Med and hyos have both been prescribed and have done some good, most
espec hyos when he was 13 -- he's almost 18 now.
I've had other suggestions of bartya carb, which did nothing at 30c, and
sulf, which we haven't tried. My latest thought is scorpion
Here is the perfect example of who he is:
He lives with his dad. He's leaving the country for a year on a learning
program (is looking forward to it greatly). Before he goes he said he'll
come stay with me a night or two. I emailed him to ask when, saying that
"any week night" was fine. He mailed back saying: "If any time is fine,
don't bug me about when or I'll withdraw the offer."
He's like that with his dad, step-mom and me, as well as any other adult
or peer he feels he has some power with -- mean, abusive, right!, though
mostly only when pressed or contradicted -- or when he thinks the other
person is stupid. With adults he sees as bosses/ superior, he's totally
cooperative and helpful -- for instance, his boss at his summer job (an aide
in a law office) and at his weekend hebrew school teaching job during the
year (the kids there mostly love him, though some were scared of him).
But if he attracts someone -- if someone becomes enamored of him -- he
uses his power to hit them emotionally. As he was hit growing up, perhaps.
His dad's and my relationship before the divorce was very emotionally
abusive. He was raised listening to people yell at each other and put each
other down. He did what it took to survive. He wasn't scared. He was sad
and mad. He once punched a hole in the wall (when he was 13 or so).
The other thing is, he's the great procrastinator in so many situations
that he doesn't respect. He's brilliant, yet barely graduated high school --
Cs and Ds. He mostly didn't do homework. On purpose. It was boring. He
knew he could pass on his brilliant test-taking (learns very easily) and
papers, so he did. He had better things to do.
However, if someone asks him to do something he knows he can do and LIKES
to do, like fixing something, or something with computers, he'll jump right
in. He likes to help.
He was captain of his track and lacrosse teams in high school. This is
him being generous, doing the extra thing. . He has a true generous, loving
side.
He's ardent in his political conservatism. Is satisfied being alone --
not a party guy.
He has a few good long-time friends, has had one relatively serious
girlfriend, whom he described even when he was with her as "emotionally
unstable." Many of his peers didn't like him (probably because he was
scornful/abusive to them). When he graduated he didn't get a big hand when
he went up for his diploma.
He's had his drivers' license taken away after his fourth accident, this
one a crash on a curve in the early morning -- his blood alcohol level was
.4, which for a kid is legally drunk, but for him (6"3', 170) really isn't.
He always drives too fast. But I don't think it's self-destructive, I think
it's more that he feels he can handle it -- he often says "I know what I"m
doing" in response to admonitions about his work, driving, life, etc.
He doesn't generally use stimulants -- he's only flirted with them so far
in his life.
He cracks his knuckles, has constant stuffy nose, gloppy throat, acne.
His room is a total mess except about twice a year, but he himself always
looks good, appropriate, stylish.
If this rings any bells, I'd be so grateful for suggestions.
Also, if anyone could please remind me how to do the eye test for
remedies (pupils do what when the remedy is held where?) I'd much appreciate
it.

Best, Margaret

[vtyekkirala]

Hi,
Margaret wrote:
MIND - ABUSIVE - family; towards one's
kali-i.;1;ckh1 kali-i.;1;k2 kali-i.;1;ptk1

MIND - MALICIOUS - sadness, in
kali-i.;3;hr1 kali-i.;3;kr1

You may examine Kali-i ,not forgetting lyss ( tormenting those/ on whom
he is dependent/ who are dependent on him) and carc which are also
helpful at some stage in such cases.
with best wishes,
V.T.Yekkirala.
From: ForumGal@aol.com
Date: Sat, 3 Aug 2002 17:31:37 EDT
Subject: [H] rubrics/rem suggestions for son please

Dear all,
You've helped me with my son before but we haven't found the right rem
yet. Med and hyos have both been prescribed and have done some good, most
espec hyos when he was 13 -- he's almost 18 now.

Best, Margaret

[G Bentley / L Barton]

Dear Margaret

It is difficult having a son like this - I know my own has many similar
qualities and I took a long time to see it but recently gave him Platina to
which he brightened up considerably - less rude more talkative to the family
etc. Good luck

Louise